Quora精选：男人不会告诉女人的话

来源：本站原创时间：2018-01-25 19:17:34

很多女孩经常会问自己的另一半，你在想什么，能不能告诉我，而男人多半会保持沉默。其实有很多男人并不会告诉女人的话你可能不知道，今天的Quora精选我们听听歪果仁怎么说的。

Quora是外国版知乎，里面有很多很有意思的问题，老外也会给出很犀利的回答。今天的Quora精选相信是很多人（尤其是女生）很感兴趣的话题，男人不会告诉女人的话？好奇心通常会害死猫，有时可能还会直接毁了一段感情。如果你不好意思问你的男朋友关于这个问题，那就来看看这篇文章吧，还能学到不少地道的日常英语口语表达~

• 用户Anagha Manoharan的分享

• 用户Martyn V. Halm的分享

• 用户Akshay Singh的分享

• 用户Tinashe Michael Tapera的分享

1.用户Anagha Manoharan的分享

One fine day I decided I wanted to learn keyboard. This was around 5 years ago. The younger me threw tantrums and never settled until my dad bought me one. I learned to play few songs, recorded them, did shows in front of my people, I couldn't be happier.

这是大约5年前，有一天，我想学习电子琴。年轻时的我发脾气，从来没淡定下来，直到我的父亲给我买了一个。我学会了演奏几首歌，记录他们，人民面前表演，我简直不能更开心。

Slowly my learning rate went down, and then one day, recently, I realized the keyboard is missing.

Might be in hostel. No I took it home. Or didn't I? It's still missing.

我的练习频率慢了下来，最近有一天，我意识到电子琴不见了。它可能在宿舍，不，我把它带回家了。或者我其实没带？我一直没找到它。

And then, my dad told me how much he had to struggle then financially, to get me one. What all things he did to arrange the money to satisfy my stubbornness. I know it's easy for me now, to get another keyboard. But that's not the point. That effort can never be replaced. Ever.

后来，我的父亲告诉我，为了让我得到一个电子琴他在金钱上挣扎了多久，他做了什么事情为了凑够钱来满足我的固执。我知道现在对我来说很容易，得到另一个电子琴，但这不是重点。那种付出的心血永远不能被取代。永远。

Sometimes men won't let women know the hardships they go through to make our lives easier. The pain they intake to make us happy.

有时候，男人不会让女人知道他们经历了多少艰辛才让我们的生活变得更好美好，他们承受了多少痛苦才让我们幸福。

Edit: I got my keyboard back !! ^_^

另外：我的电子琴又找回来了！^ _ ^

2.用户Martyn V. Halm的分享

Most men are afraid of women.

大多数男人都很害怕女人。

Secretly, of course, but it's not that difficult to find the ones who are. You can detect their anxiety in the way they speak about women.

当然，找到那些人并不困难。你可以用他们谈论女人的方式来察觉他们的焦虑。

The most telling is breaking women down in desirable and undesirable components to make them less intimidating:

最有说服力的是打破了女性在理想和不理想的组成部分，使他们不那么恐吓：

"Ask the redhead." 问红头发的。

"The blonde with the nice rack." 那个漂亮的金发女郎。

"She has a fat ass." 她有个胖胖的屁股。

There are also lots of men who have been screwed over by their spouses or girlfriends in break-ups and divorces, who consider all women to be ball-busting bitches.

还有很多男人被配偶或女朋友甩掉、离婚，他们认为所有的女人都是会打架的。

3.用户Akshay Singh的分享

I have quite a few female friends, so the following is based on experience.

我有很多女性朋友，所以下面是根据我的经验回答。

We haven't got a time reserve that you can exploit with your procrastination spree, try to be a little punctual.

我们没有足够的时间，你可以利用你的拖延狂欢，试着稍微准时点吧。

Neither me nor my dad has a tree in the backyard that bears money. Instead of waiting for the guy to pay, you can take an initiative to bear the expenses as well.   

我和爸爸都没有摇钱树在后院。与其等待这个人付钱，你也可以主动承担这些开支。

A friend who cares for you should not be contacted only when need be, it is all about priorities.

一个关心你的朋友不应该只在需要的时候联系，这是关于优先事项的。

If you can have tantrums about having a bad mood and wanting something, the same is applicable to the other gender as well. Don't you count us as humans ?

如果你可以发脾气和想要什么，这同样适用于其他性别。你不把我们当作人类吗？

4.用户Tinashe Michael Tapera的分享

Chivalry, sweetness, caring, and nurture must come from within us. Any woman who expects to be given a valentines gift, a fancy dinner, a door opened for them, etc. will be denied those luxuries, or at the very best, be given simple monetary compensation within her partner's abilities: you will be given empty dates, lifeless actions and meaningless gifts. But if you'd like to see real romantic gestures from deep in our hearts, be grateful for us and supply the feedback loop (more thankfulness = more gestures; we love seeing you smile and feeling appreciated just like you). 

体贴、讨人喜欢、乐于助人和教养是我们与生俱来的东西。任何期待对象能送情人节礼物、高档的晚餐或者替她们开门等行为的女性，可能会被拒绝或者对象只能给简单的金钱补偿，比如毫无意义的礼物。但如果你们真的想要看到我们内心深处的浪漫，就请对我们表示感谢并提供积极的反馈回路（更多感激=更多姿势，我们和你们一样喜欢看到你们笑并感受被珍视的感觉）。

However, if your mindset is "what are you getting me" or "how many times are you going to say I love you today" or "when are we next going on a date? I expect you to show me you love me today", then you are not only pestering us, you're also only receiving. And love is about giving.

然而，如果你们的心态是“你给我买的什么鬼”或者“你今天会说多少次我爱你”或者“我们什么时候才会有下一次约会？我希望你今天能向我展示你的爱”，那么你们不仅让我们觉得很烦恼，也变成了只索取不回报的一方。而爱就是付出。

看了这篇Quora精选的英语口语学习内容，你是不是和小编一样惊讶男人的想法居然这么古怪又自我，所以相爱没有那么容易，每个人都有他的脾气，珍惜好你的眼前人就对了！